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I’m Lindsey, founder of Tuck In, the place to get your fill of fashion, food and lifestyle.

I’m inspired by the 70s, fascinated by mental health and potty about puppies.

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Vintage Fashion: the Ethical Way to Shop

 

Vintage shopping is guilt free shopping. You can buy quality items that won’t cost the Earth.

After browsing these images, you’ll be craving second hand shops, flea markets and vintage stores in no time..

 

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Living the Millennial Reality: Borrowing Money to Make Ends Meet

Rising rent, inflation and a fluctuating income have made it increasingly difficult for millennials in the UK to avoid borrowing money. Whether it’s a payday loan, a credit card or the bank of Mum and Dad, nearly 70% of us are turning to desperate measures when the pockets are empty and we’re seeing red.

A recent study by Neyber discovered an alarming 7 out of 10 people under 34 need to regularly borrow cash for monthly bills and day-to-day living expenses.

Finding a job that actually pays

However, it’s not just the rising rent and inflation causing the cash flow problems, it’s down to the jobs and the wages too. There are more graduates than there are vegans in Hackney, so good paid jobs have to be fought over. Then there are those zero-hour contracts we all know and love.

During my time in retail, I was on an 8-hour contract, but one week I would be doing 30+ hours, the next it would be cut down to 8. This instability made it impossible to get a second job and it sucked never knowing how much money was coming in. According to Neyber, fluctuating income is as common as Kat Slater among 18-24-year-olds, so how the heck are we able to budget when our bank balance is as surprising as a story in OK magazine?

Money keeps me awake at night

Financial worries have a huge effect on our mental and physical wellbeing, causing sleeplessness, depression and anxiety. I’ve spent many sleepless nights staring into the abyss, wondering how I can make 50p stretch for the other seven days of the week. I’d wake up every morning and obsessively check my bank balance on my phone. Seeing those declining numbers as soon as I opened my eyes certainly made me miserable. I’d isolate myself from my friends and live on a Hovis only diet in an attempt to make it through the month.

I thought by the grand ol’ age of 28 I’d be able to hold my own, but to say I’ve needed help from my parents is the understatement of the century. I thought I’d be paid more than minimum wage (and then some), I thought I’d stop living hand to mouth and I thought I’d have two pennies to rub together. The sad thing is I’m not alone, my friends across the country are all cashing in at the bank of M&D.

I’ve had credit card debt in the past, I’ve got a student loan and an overdraft I’m waist deep in (that the bank request back as and when they feel like it). This used to make me cry more waterfalls than TLC could sing about, but finding out my friends were on the same cruise ship, also heading for debt city, was my only saving grace.

Is the change about to change?

When I was growing up my parents were buying their house, my friend’s parents were buying their house and friends of friends parents were buying their house. I was lead to believe it’s what happens when you grow up big, tall and strong. For my generation though, this is as alien as ET on a bicycle. The majority of us millennials can’t budget money that fluctuates, can’t save pounds that don’t exist and can’t quite afford to pay the bills.

To look on the bright side (or at least the dimly lit bit), if borrowing money has become the norm, then at least we’re all in this together and at least we’re talking about it. We’ve lost the shame in discussing our bank balance and we’re comfortable saying we’re skint.

So maybe these conversations will be the catalyst for change and we won’t live as our parents do and our grandparents did. In the future, property may well be reserved for the very rich, but hopefully, our dithering income, freelance titles and wavering hour jobs won’t affect our ability to get credit or rent a house.

For now, however, desperate times have called for desperate borrowing measures and these desperate borrowing measures have become so common, they don’t seem so desperate anymore.

As for me and my bank balance? Well, when I’m big, rich and famous, I’ll be posting a big fat cheque straight back into the bank of M&D Henderson – just you wait and see.

Contraception: Foolproof or Russian Roulette

Back in December 2017, I was at the end of my tether when it came to hormonal contraception methods. I was fed up with the horrendous side effects it gave me (heavy periods, recurring BV, mood swings), so I decided to give Natural Cycles a go.

Natural Cycles uses a woman’s basal temperature to detect ovulation and flag up fertile and non-fertile days. Us women are only fertile six days a cycle, so the algorithm will calculate this, then tell us to go for gold or suggest we cross our legs.

The facts and figures

According to Natural Cycles, the effectivity rate is at 93% (based on a study of 22,000 women over two years), which means seven out of one hundred ladies will find themselves up the duff if they rely on the app alone (and use it correctly). Sadly, the app costs. It’s not big bucks, but still, £39.99 a year ain’t pocket change.

Despite the logistical difficulties of using the thermometer (like measuring every morning at the same time, in the same spot under the tongue, after the same amount of sleep, on the same side of the bed, in the same position…you get the idea), I was happy to rely on it as a contraception method, pleased I’d finally got my body back after years of tricking it into thinking it was pregnant – hurrah!

Well, I was until I met my boyfriend, who doesn’t trust the app or the purple and white thermometer as far as he could throw it – and he isn’t alone in this thinking.

Since 2017, Natural Cycles has been approved across the EU by the German Inspection and certification organisation, Tüv Süd. To date, it now has more than 700,000 users from 200 countries (125,000 of them in the UK), but recently the Swedes have placed it under review. They found 37 of 668 women who had an abortion between September and December 2017, in one of their major hospitals, were using Natural Cycles as their sole birth control method.

How to measure correctly

I pride myself on being a morning person, I’m up with the birds (maybe not the bees), but measuring correctly is still something I struggled with. Finding the thermometer and sticking it under my tongue as soon as the first (of many) alarms goes off is not an easy task. It started to disrupt my sleep, I’d wake in the middle of the night, unconsciously measuring at 3 am thinking it was morning.

The other half is old-fashioned when it comes to technology, he wouldn’t know an app if it smacked him in the touch screen, so I can see why he’d have a tough time trusting Natural Cycles to keep us un-pregnant, so we decided to use condoms when we’re under the sheets (which is working swimmingly btw).

The ones who came before

With previous partners, however, condoms were discarded down the side of the bed along with underwear and floral cushions. They would complain they couldn’t get them on, they ruined the moment and they made it feel shit, and yeah, I used to hate condoms too, after years of suffering from vaginismus getting ‘it’ in was trouble enough, without adding rubber to the fire.

Of course, the problem with most contraception methods is human error, according to birthcontrol.com condoms have an 82% effective rate, it should be 98% but we aren’t sex bots who do things perfectly every time (it’s hard to see what you’re doing in the dark), so using the app and condoms seemed like a good idea in practice, but the measuring complications and his doubts playing on my mind meant I fell out of the habit quite quickly and was measuring less and less.

Unfortunately Natural Cycles definitely hasn’t left me feeling footloose and fancy-free, but I’m happy to use it as a period tracker: I can predict my PMS, I know when I’m ovulating and I know my monthly cycle. I’m getting to know what’s going on down there and getting in tune with my body, but there are other apps that do this and they’re free.

So it seems there isn’t an easy solution when it comes to contraception, it just comes down to what risks you’re willing to take and what side effects you can put up with, so for me for now, condoms will have to be the way forward..and the way in.

Fashion Role Models: The Price Staff Pay to Work in Retail

Evidence of sexist dress codes for women have caused uproar in the media recently, but what about retail jobs where staff are required to pay for the privilege of being a walking talking mannequin for the brand?

It can’t be denied that dress codes and general appearance at work are important. No one wants to be served by a sales assistant whose personal hygiene would be greatly improved by a bath in the Thames, but for retail, there is pressure on employees to buy the brands latest collection as part of company policy.

Retailers use staff to advertise their clothing, getting more of it through the till, into a 5p bag and out the door.  Some sales assistants are expected to buy at least five pieces of uniform (slightly discounted), every three months. But with zero-hours contracts, low wages and rising rent, this is not an easy ask, especially when most struggle to even find the money to buy lunch.

“I remember being given a disciplinary by my manager when I worked in retail,” says graphic designer Ellie*, 26. “He was a bit of an arsehole anyway and demanded to know why I hadn’t bought any uniform in the last three months.” At the time Ellie* was a student, living in London, working part time in a successful women’s clothing shop. The girl barely had two pennies to rub together, let alone buy the latest pair of jeans and ‘it’ jumper. “I don’t feel like I turned up to work looking a mess. I’m a fashion conscious person, I do take a lot of pride in my appearance, I just couldn’t prioritise buying clothes at that time.”

In organisations like the NHS, staff uniform is given to workers. Faye*, 25, a nurse at a Southern County hospital said she gets three pairs of basic scrubs for free, “We can pay if we want a decent pair, but I’d be annoyed if I had to pay for the standard uniform as we have to buy our PIN number every year.”

Faye* believes that a company should provide uniform if they want you to look  a certain way while at work, “It’s a scam, retail staff shouldn’t have to pay, they work hard enough for very little money anyway.”

Buying new pieces every season is an expensive business, whether the employee is passionate about the brand or not. Jack*, 25, is a sales assistant in a fashion retail store, central London. He feels a pressure to look more than presentable when dressing for work, “I do feel I have to look different to my usual blasé style.”

Jack* realises staff need to be an asset to the brand in some way, whether that’s by wearing the latest collections or looking on trend, but feels there is less stress for him to comply as a guy, “Menswear is so cyclical I can get away with wearing t-shirt and jeans. I certainly couldn’t handle the constant changes I see within women’s fashion.”

When it comes to buying clothes Jack* would rather support local, independently owned stores. “As a skateboarder, they are integral to our entire community. Topshop and other retailers don’t need an 8-hour part-timer to dress for them.”

*Names have been changed for confidentiality

What Happens When You See the GP for Anxiety & Depression

Like a princess plaster on a wound that needs stitches; doctors notes, waiting lists and antipsychotic pills are being used for mentally unwell patients. To top this, us Millennials are the most depressed and anxious generation. So with an NHS bursting at the seams, how does it feel to go through the system?

According to mentalhealth.org, of those in full-time employment, women are nearly twice as likely as men to have a common mental health problem, and it seems I was one of these women (I usually refer to myself as a girl but I won’t get into that here).

Early 2018, I was living in London and I was happier than Homer Simpson with a doughnut: I had an amazing job in fashion, a huge group of friends and I’d fallen fringe over feet in love. Then out of the blue: I was blue, hit with a serious episode of anxiety and depression. I couldn’t go to work, I didn’t want to see my friends and I’d waved a sorrowful goodbye to sleep.

So what does anxiety and depression feel like? Well for me it’s like the sky is falling down: there’s a tight knot in my stomach, my hands are numb, I can’t breathe and I’m always moments away from bursting into tears.

After explaining all this through snotty sobs and floods of tears to a doctor, I was put on the waiting list for psychiatric help and prescribed the minor tranquillizer, Valium. I was surprised how easy it was to be given these pills, just two ticks in the doctor’s office and I was away with a prescription.

I wasn’t exactly Keen Kevin when they were suggested to me, despite how ‘broken’ I felt I was, I’d seen the state a friend was in – insomnia, suicidal thoughts, heart palpitations – after taking antidepressants and decided medication wasn’t for me, but what really scared me about Valium is how addictive it can be.

Necking back a pill to magically make your problems disappear seems too good to be true. What happens when the prescription runs out? Won’t the problems be back with a vengeance? And Valium dependency can’t be easy to combat, surely?!

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not slating medication completely, (I’ve got pals who say medication is the best thing to happen to them), but I saw three different GPs, each with a different solution/pill/note every time, so it’s hard for me to trust they know what’s right.

When it comes to therapy, unless you’ve got pounds to spare and can afford to go private, then it’s all about getting to the top of ‘the list’, but this can be as difficult as baking a Victoria sponge blindfolded and drunk, it’s been nearly four months and I’m still waiting for Mr Postman to bring me the referral letter.

The problems with the NHS obviously isn’t down to the doctors and nurses themselves, who are overworked, underpaid and in most cases undervalued, but it’s with the lack of money, resources and training in the system for mental health issues. So when it comes to cases like mine, we can all be at a bit of a loss.

Sadly, me and my brain have been in this situation before and although I might be in grave danger of making this sound like a summary to an episode of Dawson’s Creek, I know what works best for me is time. I know eventually the good days will outweigh the bad, the laughter will overpower the tears and my optimism will beat my negativity. So postman or no postman I’m just going to keep waiting this episode out.

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EE Become the First Network to Provide Plans for Those With Hearing Loss

EE and Action on Hearing Loss have joined forces to provide plans for those in the UK suffering from hearing difficulty.

 

In an age where phone calls, text messages and voice memos have become part of the everyday, those with hearing loss can feel left behind and isolated, but EE has made efforts to ensure everyone can enjoy the benefits of having a mobile device.

Picking up the phone and hearing Aunt Sarah complaining about the neighbour’s dog can be taken for granted, but for those with hearing loss, this can be a luxury.

According to disability.co.uk, one in 6 people in the UK suffer from hearing loss, the disability is more prevalent in those over the age of 70 (three quarters of whom have significant hearing loss) and among newborns, 1 in every 1000 is born deaf.

The EE plan

The EE plans, available through the Action on Hearing Loss website are specifically tailored to suit the needs of those hard of hearing, with increased data allowance and fewer minutes.

The £10 data pack provides customers with 2GB of data and unlimited texts every 30 days, in comparison to the standard 18-months Sim Only plan, available on the EE website, which starts at £20 a month for unlimited minutes and texts.

These new data packages concentrate on the way those hard of hearing prefer to communicate: via text, email and messaging. Edward Goff, marketing director, mobile at EE said: “Our collaboration with Action on Hearing Loss helps us to provide a great experience for our customers.”

Device features available alongside the EE data packs

It’s no doubt hearing loss can make phone calls extremely difficult, but AoHL has a range of smartphones offered alongside EE data packs designed specifically with this in mind, their devices have amplification, hearing aid compatibility and a strong vibration.

AoHL even have ‘easy to use’ models designed for the older generation, so there is no need to rely on the help of the grandkids to send a text or stop the camera spontaneously taking unflattering ‘selfies’.

James Rowe, technology and enterprise executive director at Action on Hearing Loss said it was encouraging to see a company like EE taking steps to “make sure their customers living with deafness are able to access phone packages better suited to their needs.”

Is this the future of mobile network price plans?

It seems the collaboration between EE and AoHL over the past few months is very important one as, according to statista.com, more people than ever before are dependent on the smartphones in their pockets.

Networks and tech companies have been forced to think about every type of customer, even Three and Virgin Media have rolled out sign language services, so with more diverse plans everyone’s needs or disability can be catered for.

Other ways EE help customers hard of hearing

It doesn’t just stop with the phone and the bill: EE strives to be the UK’s best, most personal and local customer service, so the call center staff have undergone specialist training, enabling them to support customers with a wide range of disabilities, not just hearing loss.

It’s not the first time EE has been ahead of the game; they were the first to launch Enhanced High Definition Voice, a sound improvement technology during phone calls.

So with companies like EE tailoring services for customers with disabilities, we are closer to waving goodbye to a world where mobile phones, plans and services are only geared towards the younger generation and those living without disabilities.

 

Published on: https://www.choose.co.uk/news/2018/ee-first-network-mobile-phone-plans-hearing-loss/